2011-12-10

MIXED MARRIAGES

            According to the dictionary marriage is the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife. It is an incredibly complicated relationship requiring a lot of devotion and tenacity. However, when you introduce major differences into a marriage such as race, religion or nationality, there are additional problems you may face. People can confront with a several difficulties in a mixed marriage, such as misunderstanding from their family, disagreement with society and problems with children.

             First of all family members may feel as though the person is not keeping up his culture or religion. They may not understand the other person's traditions.  Fathers may commonly disown their daughters for marrying outside their race or religion, because the person is losing his identity and culture. It is possible for both the husband and wife of a mixed marriage to accept and understand their parents and try to avoid the misunderstanding which can occur between them.  Partners in a mixed marriage often have to be stronger and more confident within themselves than the average couple, due to the additional complications they will likely face from their family.

             The second problem is disagreement with a society. People may behave cruel to the mixed marriage, because they do not understand or approve this kind of relationship.  Although nowadays mixed marriages become more popular and frequent, because people are traveling around the world, but society usually do not really appreciate such a relationship. They can remain ignorant comments, dirty looks, and discriminatory standpoint.

             The last dilemma is children born in a mixed marriage. It is a common problem, because couples with different religious convictions may not agree on which faith to teach their children. The best way to avoid this problem is to discuss it before planning to have a child. Teaching the children both faiths and letting them decide themselves when they will grow up is a compromise that many couples make. From my point of view children born of multinational couples should be taught the culture of both parents. Making children choose to identify with only one culture is a recipe for disaster later in life.

               In a conclusion I want to say, that a strong, loving and lifelong relationship even in mixed marriage can last for a long time. The main thing is to try to establish a harmonious, healthy and stable relationship between husband and wife and try to cement their relationship regardless of all other people. I think we can all learn how to make even the happiest marriage better and stronger.